What Is A 'Situationship?' All The Advice You're Looking For

When it comes to what a situationship is it may seem a bit broad, but in fact it's pretty clear, once you know what you're looking for. If you think that you might be in a situationship, has the tips you need to determine whether or not you are and what you can do about it. So, what is a situationship? A situationship can be identified by the following indicators: you stay over at each other's place a lot and you're both totally comfortable around each other, you're only seeing them and those close to you aren't sure why this isn't an actual relationship, you speak mostly via text message and your future plans are always short-term, you haven't met each other's friends and still head solo to social gatherings, and there are no labels and you're afraid to talk with them about it. If any of this sounds familiar, then chances are that you're currently in a situationship. It's important to understand this and to figure out what you want to do in terms of moving forward. Eventually, you're going to have to decide. One way or another. Read on for some more information on situationships, how you can recognize them, and what you can do.

You're Completely Comfortable With Them

You're completely comfortable around each other. It makes no difference at all if he sees you in baggy sweats with no make-up or if she sees you when you first wake up and your hair situation is a hot mess. You're completely comfortable with each other, and you're not even thinking about those things at this point because you passed that point a while ago now. You know each other's routine and you've got the daily dance down pretty well by this point. It would appear that you've got the together-ness down pat, but what about the label? What about the solid stamp that says I'm with him/her? Well, interestingly enough, just because you're at this stage intimacy, doesn't mean that you're in an actual relationship. It can seem strange that there wouldn't be a label on something that's so comfortable, and seems to come so naturally - but when there isn't you can bet that's you've found yourself in a situationship. It's great that the two of you are so comfortable together and having that kind of intimacy and closeness is awesome. When you think about it though... how close are the two of you, really?

Those Close To You Don't Understand Why It Isn't A Relationship

Rightfully so, too. If you've ever seen a friend go through the same thing, then you know you've felt confused about what they're doing. More importantly, you've certainly felt concerned for them. It's a sticky situation to approach a friend when you see them stuck in a situationship. You really never know how questions about this might be received, and it's important to tread lightly because they're probably just as confused as you are about it. They're probably thinking about it often as well, and it's likely that they don't have the answer. When you're in a situationship, you might not even notice it right away, and by the time you do there's a good chance that you're already so confused about how to proceed yourself that you really aren't into having to answer questions about it to other people. Remember though, it's unrealistic for those who care about you to see you in such a circumstance and not ask you about it. They care about you and they want you to be okay. Their concern is genuine, so try your best to go easy on them when they ask, because the questions are definitely going to come, and when it comes to situations like this, they're likely going to come at a time when you really wish they wouldn't.

Your Future Plans Are Always Short-Term

You're getting the standard text from Mr./Ms. situationship for your upcoming plans and it's the same as always: messages about your upcoming plans for the next few days or the coming week. The plans never go beyond that though, an that needs to be a major red flag, as well. It's the same story each week, and it was comfortable for a while, but now you're starting to ask yourself some more questions about things. Why are the plans the two of you make only ever for the next few days or a week? Why can't they see themselves with you beyond that? As sure as you knew you'd receive this message to make these plans for the upcoming week, you're also pretty sure that you'll be receiving the same message next week, the week after, and so on. There's clearly a road block here, and it's important to recognize and be aware of this. It's textbook situationship behavior.

There Are No Labels

The situationship is the easiest way to get everything you want from someone, without ever having to necessarily be responsible for your actions, or explain yourself when you decide to walk away. Having all of the companionship, sex, emotional fulfillment, etc that comes from being in a relationship, when you have no labels, is the perfect way to have your cake and eat it too. When you have absolutely no intention of taking things to another level, it's easy to just say, 'well, we don't need a label'. It's not to say that this is always going to be a worst case scenario type of outcome, but generally speaking, it is a huge indicator of being caught up in a situationship, and unless you address it with the person you're, 'situation-ing' with, you're never going to get the answers that you're definitely starting to look for by now.

You Have Some Choices To Make

Be honest with yourself about what you want. If you both want more, that is great! If you do and they don't, it's a good idea to move on. Whatever the case may be, it's important to make the right decision for yourself. You've been participating in the situationship as well, so is there a chance that maybe you're not feeling ready for more? It's worth asking yourself. If they want something that's different from you, one way or the other, you need to be very honest with yourself about how you should be moving forward because there are two people with some level of emotional investment in this situation. Whatever happens, you're going to be just fine, and you'll be prepared to see the signs the next time a situationship comes along. We hope this article has helped!