Get you man to go down on you by being sexy, by being assertive (this means straight up asking for oral sex,) by smelling great and keeping yourself in great shape, and by making time for sex. You can also encourage him to help him feel sexy and capable -- guys won't try new things if they think that they are likely to fail, so be kind. If you are good at head, start the ball rolling by pleasuring him orally, then ask him to return the favor; he will be sure to reciprocate.
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Before you start to think about how to get this dude to go down on you, you need to ask yourself whether he is even the right guy for the job. So he may be your bf, but so what. There are a lot of guys out there. Is he caring and kind? Does he take the time to make you feel special, and give you the kind of attention you need, emotionally, spiritually, physically? The truth is, if you are even reading this then there must be some deficiency in your relationship, otherwise he would already be going down on you. Another thing that you really have to think about is whether or not this guy has herpes -- this can show up on his face as a cold sore. If he has a cold sore then he can pass that to your vagina as herpes, and you really do not want to get involved with that. Once you have herpes you cannot get rid of it, and it can flare up again and again through your life, so stay clear of any guy with cold sores. If your guy passes the test of kindness, patience, sexual prowess (however slight, every little helps,) and of being clear of herpes, then you can start to think about the best things you can do to get oral sex from him.
The best place is going to be your bedroom. The downside of this (before we go into the upsides) is that it can be hard to get a guy to leave, whereas if you go to his place then you can leave whenever you want. The upsides, though, are that you will be in a safe place where you feel totally comfortable, plus he may be a little unnerved, especially if you still live at home with your parents, which can make a guy feel outnumbered, and rightly so. Choose some mood lightning, some sexy music, and pick an outfit. You might want to pick a costume that really accentuates your feminine sexuality, such as a short skirt and a thong, or a short skirt and a pair of edible panties. Alternatively, you could consider wearing a short skirt and no panties, plus a set of thigh high stockings. The other option might simply be to strip totally naked, though you may want to have an outfit lined up so that you can strip out of it. A good suggestion might be a short skirt and a pair of lacy panties, or perhaps even a full length dress with nothing under it. For the sexy music, choose something that is sure to get him in the mood, such as Isaac Hayes or Stevie Wonder, both of whom have been helping women have orgasms for many years. The other things that you could prepare would be refreshments, which you can leave in the fridge for afterwards. Choose a time when both of you are likely to feel energized, such as the start of the weekend, rather than straight after work or a tough class.
It is really quite simple to assert yourself in the bedroom (or wherever you choose to have oral sex with this guy) and that is to be assertive in other areas of your life. If you start to learn how to ask for things then it will soon start to pass through into other areas of your life. For instance, if you are at a grocery store and the guy doesn't ask you if you want a bag, then ask him for a bag. You will find pretty soon that he gives up and eventually passes you a plastic, or maybe paper, shopping bag -- whatever the material, it will indeed be a bag, and that is what you have asked for. Another example would be if you are a college student, as many people are, and you get a bad grade. Simply go up to your professor after the lecture you just had and ask him to increase your grade. After some contemplation, the professor may roll his eyes and change your grade to a much better one; in fact, he may even give you the highest grade in your class just for asking for it. Another great example is automobiles. Now, it may so happen that you want to purchase for your own use a reasonably expensive motor vehicle. But what do you do if you do not want to pay full price? Of course, you approach the sales man. Tell him you would very much like to buy the car in question, but you are a bit short of cash. He will most likely look you up and down, roll his eyes a few times, sigh into a handkerchief, and then give you the keys to the car at a greatly reduced price. Another great example of how you can assert yourself as a woman is to go for your male boss's job while he is either on holiday, on leave for a death in the family, or in hospital getting over a serious illness. His superior, upon receiving your application, may tut a few times, shake his head, and then give you your boss's office, his job, and his salary, probably with a higher commission, all because you had the balls to ask for it. Want your man to go down on you? Be assertive in all areas of your life, and you will soon realize that it is easily achieved.
The plain fact of the matter is that yes, in fact a man CAN make you have an orgasm just by going down on you. If you have never experienced this before, and if your BF is not as experienced as you may like him to be, there are a huge number of videos on the net that show exactly this. Why not sit down with your BF tonight and watch a few of them? Who knows -- you may even get in the mood for having your own oral sex session! Your BF can make you come by starting at the outer reaches of your groin area and slowly working his way towards your pulsing clitoris. Once he is there and you have him just where you want him, control the action by having him lick rhythmically while you hold his head. This will help you to control the orgasm that he gives you, while you tell him if you want it harder, softer, slower, or faster -- just make sure that he does not stop!
Never feel obliged to go down on your guy just because he has just gone down on you; you are not obliged to at all, and in point of fact, fellatio is a lot more hands on (pardon the pun) than cunnilingus -- think about what is going on here: fellatio is so much more invasive of a person's body than giving cunnilingus to a woman. For that very reason alone it is ok if you feel like you do not really want to go down on him. Also, there is no such thing as reciprocity in sex -- it is not tit for tat. If it was, folk would keep literal tallies of how much they had given their partner sexually, keeping count of sexual debt -- a truly horrible idea. If you feel like it, then go down on your guy when you are in the mood, but bear in mind that there is no such thing as 'should' when it comes to sex.
Our last word: First and foremost, be clean. The number one turn off for guys is a bad smell. Give yourself a really good clean, and maybe give yourself a trim, or have a wax if you like that style. Then just come out and say it: 'I want you to go down on me.' To be honest, most guys will offer, but if yours doesn't, then bite the bullet and come out and ask him. Oral sex is a normal part of most couples' sex life, so you have nothing to worry about. If you need to ease him into it, (perhaps he is as new to it as you are) then try watching suitable videos together to get you both in the mood.