Have a recent hookup that you're hoping to keep hooking up with throughout the summer? Lucky for you, we've dedicated an entire article on how to make a random hookup into a summer fling! Having a summer fling doesn't mean you have a relationship, it just means that you get to have great sex and hang out with someone casually all summer! It's a great situation for everyone involved, but first you need to find that person. If you're hooking up regularly it's not going to be hard; you have tons of options to choose from already!
We're going to tell you exactly what you need to do to keep hooking up with this random hookup throughout the summer, turning your one-time awesome night into an unforgettable summer fling! Who wouldn't jump at the chance to have amazing sex with no strings attached, and have someone to go the beach with all-in-one? Making a random hookup into a summer fling is going to be much easier than you might have thought, and we're about to prove it! There are two main ways to do this, so get ready to take note. Remember, flings are casual, so there's no relationship drama allowed!
One way to make random hookup into a summer fling is to bring it up to your hookup. This might be the simplest way to do it, because you find out pretty quickly whether or not they're into the idea. You don't just have to come right out and ask them, there are ways to bring it up more subtly, if that's what you're going for. We have a few different suggestions here for approaches on turning a random hookup into a summer fling, so you can choose which one would suit your situation the best.
There's no right or wrong way to do this either, it's just what's best for you. You might not feel comfortable coming right out and asking your hooking if they'd be down for a fling, so a more subtle approach would work better for you. Regardless, we've got you covered no matter how you decide to bring the topic up to your hookup of choice. We've got the 3 main ways to do it, and they just so happen to be the easiest ways to do it too!
You can casually mention the idea of a summer fling to your hookup, and see what they say in response. You could bring up a friend of yours and how they recently went from hooking up with someone to having a fling for the summer, for one. If they seem weirded out by the idea or outright say that they couldn't do it, then you know that this person isn't the right hookup for a summer fling. However, if they seem to react positively to the idea, you might be safe to bring it up for you two.
Keep your tone and body language casual so that your hookup doesn't misread things and think that you're really talking about a starting a relationship, and not just a casual situation for the summer. Once you get a read on how they feel about it by talking about it casually in terms of other people, you can ask what they would think about that kind of thing for you guys. It really can be that easy to get a summer fling going with a random hookup!
You can mention how you've wanted to have a fling for a short time, without mentioning that you would want to with your current hookup until you can gauge their reaction to the idea. Mention how you had a fling once in the past and it was a great experience, and you hope to have one again, even for just the summer for some extra fun. This is a very safe, and frankly, sexy, way to broaching the subject of summer flings with a hookup you're interested in having one with. It's breezy, and there's no pressure involved, plus you're letting them know that you've had a fling in the past!
Letting a hookup know that you're experienced with flings is a good thing, because they'll know that you can handle the casual nature of it, and might be more interested in pursuing one with you for the summer. Mentioning that you want another fling like the successful ones that you've had gives your hookup the perfect opportunity to jump in with their input, especially if they're into the idea of starting one with you!
You can also be extremely direct and straight-up ask your random hookup if they'd be interested in having a summer fling with you. You get your answer right away, you don't have beat around the bush, and there's no misconstruing the situation. It takes a certain kind of person to have the nerve to do it this way, though, because there's more risk of direct rejection than the other, more subtle ways of bringing up the idea of a summer fling to a random hookup. It's not the approach for everyone, but it works, so it's worth mentioning!
If you have the balls to approach it this way, you really can't go wrong. The one and only downside is that risk of rejection, but if one hookup says no, there's always the next one that you can ask! Finding a summer fling doesn't necessarily happen right away, and you want to be sure that the hookup you're asking is worth spending the summer with - i.e. are skilled in bed! There's nothing worse the prematurely asking a hookup to be a fling, then finding out that they suck in bed!
The second approach to making a random hookup into a summer fling is to slyly make it happen without ever talking about it with your hookup. This method has the fling happening without your hookup really even noticing, which is a great approach if you have an aversion to talking about things. There's nothing wrong with that, but be ready to explain the situation if they ever ask, because there is some potential for confusion that things are becoming serious, when really, it's just a casual fling for the summer.
This is, of course, a slightly more underhanded way to doing things, but it still gets the job done, so what's the harm? It's the perfect approach for the shy person, just make sure you don't make any romantic gestures whatsoever, so that your hookup doesn't confuse the fling with dating. You'll be spending more time together, sure, but it's just about fun, sex, and company, not romance or intimacy, so be clear about that even if you don't directly talk about the fact that you've become a summer fling!
One way to start the process of turning a random hookup into a summer fling is to message them after your hookups, or between hookup times. Don't message inane things like asking what they're up to and such, ask them sexy things. The point here is that you're communicating beyond your hookups, and that's step number one in getting things going as a fling. Eventually you can start messaging them about things that are happening and hanging out randomly, but that should be saved for once the fling has started already and been in progress for some time.
Stay away from any romantic texting. Like we said, keep it sexy. Sext them if you aren't able to physically meet for a hookup, and invite them to do the same. Talk outside of your sexytimes, but keep things away from anything relating to dating or romance. You'll find things that are appropriate to talk about and know what line to toe on topics eventually, but play it safe to start and keep it exclusively sex related, just do it more often!
Figuring things that you could do together before or after you hookup, but make sure it's not too romantic so that they don't think you're trying to start a relationship with them. Do something like get drinks and go for comfort food together, or get stoned and order junk food - things that you would do with your buddies, frankly. The idea is that you're establishing yourself as a pal, but one that they also get to have sex with. Once that idea gets reinforced, it'll be impossible for them to deny a summer fling with you - they'll be having way too much fun!
Don't get carried away and go making dinner reservations - if it's something that you would do with a date, or somewhere you would take someone you want to be romantic with, do not do it with your potential summer fling. Remember, you two aren't in a relationship, you're just hanging out for the summer, so keep it much more casual then going somewhere you would need reservations for. Fun and breezy is the name of the game, keep that in mind!
Contact your random hookup more frequently for hookups, and up the ante each time you do it. There are a couple of goals in doing this, one of which is that you're spending more time together, and getting to know if they would make a suitable summer fling. They'll also get to know you better, which will make them much more inclined to want to hang out more often, and eventually segue into a summer fling from random hookups.
The other goal is that you're showing your sexual prowess by upping your game each time, which will make them want to hookup with you more often. No one can turn down incredible sex, so if you're giving them the goods, they can't possibly turn down the idea of spending the summer hanging out and having regular sex with you in a fling! They'd be crazy to turn that down, so show off your game whenever you guys are hooking up and you'll reap all the benefits in the form of a summer fling!
You might not strike gold with the first random hookup you try for a summer fling, but keep trying! If one person isn't down for the idea of a summer fling, that doesn't mean that your next random hookup won't be! Be somewhat picky in your attempts at finding a summer fling from a random hookup, too. Make sure they're good in bed and you'll get off when you're with them, and that you would actually want to spend more time with them. Hang out and hookup with them a few time before you consider them for a summer fling. If they don't qualify, then move onto someone else.
It's not hard to find a summer fling, but not everyone's down for the idea, so it can take a couple of tries before you find someone to hookup with for the summer. Until then, enjoy your hookups and get off whenever you can! There's no shortage of people out there looking to get laid. Your next random hookup could be your ideal summer fling, you never know!