If you are dating someone and just stopped texting, first, do nothing. Don't chase him, don't call the hospitals, don't pester his mom. He's fine, he's just being a dude. Second, think about how you want to deal with this disrespectful treatment. You clearly need to talk to him about it -- when he gets around to answering you. Third, if it goes on too long, and he's not fallen off the face of the planet, block his number and move on.
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It is all too easy to freak out if he stops texting. First, try not to react to his lack of reaction. This means sitting on your hands (literally or figuratively -- whatever works for you) and simply letting him be quiet for a while. Whatever you do, do not bombard him with texts asking if he's okay -- if something is wrong, you will only cause him to clam up more, and if nothing is wrong, it will only irritate him. Plus, if he continues to ghost you, you'll wonder whether it was because you kept pestering him. When you are in a bit of a state over a guy, you really want to give yourself as little as possible to worry about and fixate on, and that means keeping your own distance insofar as that is possible.
This might sound like common sense, but if he doesn't text you then do not start to stalk this guy. Keep away from his online accounts for the sake of your own sanity. The thing to remember here is that age old phrase: 'If he won't talk, don't stalk.' It is all too easy to load up a few tabs on your browser with his Facebook, his Twitter, his Instagram, even his LinkedIn and hit refresh on each tab every few minutes so that you can analyze his every move. You really don't need to see every conversation he's followed, every meme he's liked, or every group he's joined. Sure, it may be reassuring to see confirming evidence that the guy is still alive, but that's not really what you're doing this for, now is it? If you find yourself getting obsessive over him when he stops texting you back, the very first thing you need to do is put your phone away and do something real in the real world, preferably with your pals, or with your family.
It may be the case that you simply did not leave things on good terms -- perhaps there was some ambiguity about whether you two were still on, or perhaps one of you was unhappy with the other. Yet again, there may have been a cooling off period, or an agreed period during which you were going on a break. Think back over any arguments you may have had, including drunken disagreements -- it happens. If he is ghosting you for no reason that you can think of, then why not bite the bullet and give him a call out of the blue? It may seem to be a little bold to come right out and do this, but sometimes it is worth it, even though it can take some guts.
Okay, so you don't feel like texting her. Or maybe you guys had a fight. Or maybe it's just not high on your list of priorities. Whatever your reason for not texting this poor girl back, just please do one thing -- put her out f her misery. No-one wants to be left hanging in a timeless limbo, not knowing what is going on, or whether you are okay, or whether your relationship is still on. Just text her. She'll text you back. Then you can text HER back. Then, before you know it, you will be having a conversation. If there is anything between you, and if you care about her, then text her. If you don't want to be with her, then let her know so that she can move on. If you're mad at her, let her know why. If you did something you regret, tell her so that she can decide whether she still wants to be with you. Whatever the reason, don't ghost her, because that is just straight up emotional cruelty.
Hold your horses, there, missy. You are giving this guy wayyyyy too much control in your life. The first thing that you need to keep in mind, is that it is never up to him whether you two are over, it is up to YOU. This is your world, not his. If he is the one who has been giving you the silent treatment, take the initiative and issue an ultimatum. He has to talk to you, because by ignoring you he is treating you with disrespect. By disrespecting you, he is saying he doesn't care about you, and why on Earth would you want to be with someone and waste your time on someone who does not care about you? Tell him to shape up or ship out. And if he ignores THAT, then you can assume that the relationship is over. Which is good news for you if you have been waiting to bang his best friend/the guy next door/the boss. Seriously though, if he ghosts you it's a bit like when you stop watering a plant. Without attention, all lovely things die.
This can be a guy or a girl, but really it should be a pal rather than a prospective squeeze. Rebound love affairs are often messy things that are best avoided, but there are few things in life better than airing your grievances with a good friend who has know you for a long time.