Sexting can be fun -- but it can also be dangerous! NEVER go to meet someone you have spoken with only over the internet. Also, make sure you never give your real name -- and certainly not your address -- to anybody that you do not know. If you are sexting a friend, make sure that it is appropriate to do so -- does he have a girlfriend or boyfriend, or is he or she a lot older (or younger) than you? You must also both be over the age of consent to sext. And just to reiterate, be sure that you NEVER go to meet someone that you meet on the internet, or through any anonymous texting app.
So you're getting into sexting? That is all well and good, but did you know that there is a right way and a wrong way to have fun AND stay safe when you are sexting? Read on to learn everything from what sexting is in the first place, to how t make sure your sexting partner is who they really say they are -- while also protecting your own anonymity, of course! Bookmark this page now so you can come back to it again and again for advice.
As long as you are over the age of consent and the person you are sexting with is appropriate, then there is nothing wrong with sexting per se. Safe sexting is just that -- safe -- but safety is not always achievable; if this is the case, then you should consider not sexting, or by phasing it out. It is perfectly alright to ghost somebody if you can't find a way to tell them you no longer want to engage with them in this way, but you can also just tell them straight up that you either do not feel comfortable with it, or even to tell them you are going to stop without giving an explanation -- this is especially acceptable if you are a woman, in which case you have every right to say no and not even have to say why it is that you are saying no to sexting with any particular person.
Sexting the safe way involves interacting with someone sexually over a written medium, in this case text messages, and other messaging apps, as well as through any other electronic medium, such as email. Most often it involves your phone, which you should learn to get good at using one handed while you masturbate with the other. Taken to its logical conclusion, sexting the safe way will often involve making each other have an orgasm. It can be seen in its purest form as a type of mutual masturbation, although this is not always the case; it is quite normal to find that at least one party is not actually masturbating, and as the initial sexting begins, the messages can simply be flirtatious. This can then lead to full on masturbation, although even at this stage is is par for the course that one of you may say that you are masturbating when in fact this is not the case.
If you are guy then it is the norm to be up front about who you are. But if you are a woman,you should almost always stay anonymous. Use a fake name -- this is totally okay, especially if you are a woman. If you chose to go anonymous, then do not give any identifying information away -- you do not give out your address, you do not give out your real name, you do not give out your correct age, and you do not tell them what you studied at grad school -- any one of these bits of info can give away who you really are, so do be sure to keep them entirely to yourself.
The truth is that if you know the person you are sexting, it is certainly easier for sexting to lead to sex. There seems to be a trend these days for sexting to act as a kind of replacement to foreplay, and while this does seem to be the case, the trouble is that sexting is a lot easier to lead to over-commitment when it comes to having sex. Of course, if you or the other party is a minor, then the answer should obviously be NO, sexting should not lead to sex. Apart from this, there is no such thing as should or shouldn't -- whether it does or doesn't, though, is entirely up to you.
Start off by making a veiled flirt and work from there. You can start off as simple as you like, but asking someone how their night is going is usually a good one. From here you can move onto how you are feeling at the moment, which should probably be along the lines of how horny you have been all night, and how you can't stop thinking about what you would like to do with the person you are sexting. Or you can lead them into it in such a way that you coerce the other person into telling you how they are thinking about you. This is fairly easy to do, and needs not be anything any more elaborate than 'Have you been thinking about me?' followed by 'What have you been thinking about?' After this, the other person can start to get explicit with you. If they do not, a simple 'Mmmmm' is usually a good place holder for them to realize they need to go a bit further. Once you have got here you are kind of at first base in terms of sexting. The nest step is to go into more detail about what you want to do with them. Here, you can start to get a bit more sexual and advance the conversation further along the lines of actual details of what you two would like to do to each other. This is the second base of sexting, so to speak. Third base, then, would be actual mutual masturbation, and you get to that point by asking your sexting partner whether they are touching themselves. If the answer is No, then either say that YOU are, or tell them to, point blank. Once you have both confirmed that you are, indeed, touching yourselves, then you can move towards real hot and heavy sex talk. tell them exactly what you want to do with the, and what you would like them to do with you. What happens next is really up to you, but the logical conclusion is that one or both of you has an orgasm while sexting each other. This can be followed with how great you both feel, and the usual pleasantries, such as, 'See on Monday at the office.'
As with most new technologies, with the advent of texting, it was inevitable that people were going to use it for sex. And lo and behold... Now mostly everyone is at it. So yes, sexting is widespread, though let's not normalize it, because while some people in relationships, and some people seeking relationships, use it to good effect, sexting has a seedy, underground side to it that is best avoided. Don't sext with strangers, and do not sext if either or both of you are minors.